Mediation is a wonderful, low-conflict tool that proves very helpful for divorcing parents.  You will receive much more information about the process in your co-parenting session.  But feel free to contact me at any time should have any questions  Kim  981-7900

If you are represented by an attorney, he or she usually chooses a mutually agreeable mediator.  I will gladly talk to you or your legal counsel about my mediation experience, philosophy and approach.  I specialize in children issues, having started mediating Permanent Parenting Plans in early 2000.  i have experience mediating all types of issues since 1996.  Feel free to contact me should you have any questions at all..  Thanks.  Kim  981-7900  kdresq@gmail.com

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Collaborative Mediation: The New Divorce Solution

Collaborative mediation is a fresh, innovative approach to divorce that is healthy, family-centered, and affordable. Collaborative mediation offers a sensible alternative to the adversarial, two lawyer divorce system for divorcing couples who instead want to make their own decisions and stay in control of their family's future. One neutral attorney-mediator and a counseling professional work collaboratively with a divorcing couple to get them over legal, financial, and emotional hurdles to reach mutually acceptable agreements. With ninety-five percent of couples finding agreement on all their issues, collaborative mediation has proven to be the new divorce solution!

Collaborative Mediation: The Best of Collaborative Law and Mediation

Divorce litigation destroys families and finances. No one escapes its emotional toll, not even adult children. Over the last several decades, enlightened lawyers, mental health professionals, and financial specialists developed mediation and collaborative law as effective, private options for divorcing couples who strive to make their own decisions, protect their families, and save money and time by avoiding divorce war.

Collaborative mediation is the next big step in the evolution.

Collaborative mediation combines the best and most successful strategies of collaborative law with the pure simplicity and cost effectiveness of mediation with outstanding success. To fully appreciate the benefits and advantages of collaborative mediation, it is helpful to have a basic understanding of mediation and collaborative law.

Mediation

For a long time, mediation has proven to be most effective for the majority of divorcing couples to assist in reaching resolution regarding the separation of their family.. Mediation is typically the least expensive assisted consensual dispute resolution process available. Both spouses meet privately and confidentially with a neutral third party (a mediator) who has specialized training in facilitating communications, developing options, and negotiating agreements that work for everyone. The mediator's role is not to give legal advice or impose a decision, but instead to guide the parties to reach their own resolutions. Divorcing spouses make important decisions that fit their family and finances. Mediation avoids the unfortunate result of a judge or arbitrator deciding how much money each spouse will have and when they will see their children.

In many states mediation is conducted without divorce lawyers. In others, it is customary to have them present.

There are other positives to mediation besides low cost: ability to decide how/when to use lawyers, making plans for childrens' future (as opposed to be "court-ordered" in how to raise children post-divorce), control over and responsibility for the process, and self-determination. The settlement rate of traditional mediation is eighty to eighty-five percent. Divorce mediation usually moves fairly quickly. Litigation can drag on for years. A mediated divorce results in a legally binding written agreement that contains all the parties' agreed upon terms for property and debt division, alimony, child support, children's scheduling, and shared parenting. Some states allow the mediator to write the divorce decree which also saves money.

The caveat to divorce mediation is anyone can call himself or herself a mediator even if that person has little or no training in dispute resolution. It is a good idea to check carefully the credentials and experience of the mediator and have a consultation before choosing one. If mediation is not successful on all issues the divorcing couple will need to find another way to resolve those that remain. That could be by litigation, collaborative law, or arbitration (any of which generally will require engaging lawyers and spending additional money).